Introduction
In the times we live in today we
are so reliable on our cell phone as a means of connection to the outside
world. Especially when it comes to text messaging, whether it is our family or
friends, we always seem to be glued to our phones. With this being said I am
going to explore the effects texting has on relationships, this involving
family and friends, and personal relationships. I will discuss the
negative and positive aspects of text messaging and also include other research
that I have found important in regards to my subject matter.
I hope to engage my subject to
entertain my questions to the fullest extent that can be made, in hopes of
revealing the information I need to gather to answer my questions. With the
research I am conducting I hope to find what is lost in translation through
texting, and what seems to get misconstrued the most. I hope to explore what is
lost through texting messaging, whether it is seeing the facial expressions
and/or the tone of someone’s voice. I went into this study with high aspects of
receiving much more negative effects than positive, especially in regards to
personal relationships and texting.
Literature Review
In “Generation Txt? The
sociolinguistics of young people’s text-messaging” ( Thurlow & Brown
revised), one of my sources for this research project, they discuss something
that I found to be quite interesting. “Initially intended for purely
commercial purposes, text-messaging is in fact yet another example of how the
human need for social intercourse- a kind of ‘communication imperative’ – bends
and ultimately co-opts technology to suit its own ends”. This going to show the
need for a text message to be used as a connection to the human race from one
person to another, text messaging is a somewhat easy way to talk to someone in
a quick and shorten matter, or to even avoid any type of interaction or
confrontation.
“Language is always multifunctional and always dependent on context for its
meaning. As such, it was not always possible to be certain of the meaning of
some participants’ messages and even less so the communicative intent with
which they were sent” (Thurlow & Brown). Going along with this idea, text
messaging certainly loses its meaning in translation, while you can be sending
a particular text with a certain point in mind, the person on the other end may
take this message in a completely different way. This is a large part of my
research and what I hope to gain more knowledge of through the subject I am
interviewing. Through this research
process I hope to gain a stronger grasp on text messaging, and its effects on
relationships, and possibly how things would be different if text messaging did
not exist in our relationships today.
In an article
from The Daily Journalist by Jaime Ortega Simo. “Merlo, Ph.D. in Psychiatry of
University of Florida said “people have become more dependent on technology and
there is a tendency to focus less effort on in-person interactions” This going
along with my question of the effects on our relationships today, and the world
being so reliable on their cell phones as a means of communication. I hope to
be able to add to this research and discover if what other researchers have
found deems to go along with my questions and concerns about text messaging and
its possible everlasting effects on our relationships.They are so many resources out there in relation to this subject area, so I tried to chose the two that I was able to connect to the most.
Methods
I chose to interview
a female subject who is 26 years old, text messaging is large part of this
person’s life, and I wanted to see the effects it has on her and her
relationships and lifestyle based on either sending or receiving text messages.
With regards to
my research question, I felt conducting an interview would be my best means to
gathering the information I would need to support my research question. One of
most important parts of conducting an interview in regards to my subject matter
was to be able to hear and see the reaction to the questions and answers I was
receiving from my subject. The question and answer scenario provided me with
information, and specific reactions to questions that I needed to help further
my research project. I prepared my data by compiling a set of questions,
beginning with the basics than leading into more in depth questions, that I
knew would provide some strong facts and examples that would support my
research question. After going through the series of approximately fifty
questions, I ended with a wrap-up of the interview and asked for any last
minute comments or opinions.
To conduct my
interview I used a recorder to capture our entire interview of which took approximately
50 minutes to complete with some conversations in between particular questions
that really caught the attention of my subject, and her personal relationships.
As we went through the interview I noted for myself the times when my subject
was affected by particular questions I was asking, whether it was facial
expression, or even a pause before she went forward with her answers. After my
interview was complete I transcribed my data and organized into sections the into
particular categories that went along with my research question.
Presentation and Analysis of Data
I was able to
organize my data into sections based on the questions I asked and the answers I
received. After doing this I was able to see more clearly the variety of
answers I received and was able to cycle the ones I found vital to my subject
matter. I was able to pull out the answers my subject gave me and analyze them
in much closer way, while keeping in mind her gestures and reactions to these
particular questions. Texting is an often occurrence for my subject due to the
fact that her and her significant other work opposite shifts and only see each
other on the weekends, they somewhat rely on text messaging as a large means of
communication throughout the day. Due to her situation with her boyfriend, she
was able to express both the positive and negative aspects of texting, the
positive which includes being able to send or receive a short message when they
are unable to physically see each other. The negative which I will discuss in my next
section, is having text messaging being so readily available.
When the idea of how relationships are
affected by texting rather than speaking to someone face to face is questioned,
we learn that a strain may be put on relationships when you lose that personal
connection to someone. An example I pulled out of my interview data that I felt
pertained to this idea:
R Have any of your personal relationships
been affected by a particular text?
N yes, um this one time my boyfriend and I were talking about the holidays and his family, I had said we should spend Christmas just him and I because you know I have some issues with his family, I am not welcomed in his home, so I had said let’s just do you and me, and his reply through text was its Christmas and it’s my family so if you love me you’ll come,
I was so upset and hurt because he knows the history with his family, I got so upset I said you know what I hate you and your family, it was a whole big argument all in text message and ended up spending the holiday a part and it sucked, it really hurt.
N yes, um this one time my boyfriend and I were talking about the holidays and his family, I had said we should spend Christmas just him and I because you know I have some issues with his family, I am not welcomed in his home, so I had said let’s just do you and me, and his reply through text was its Christmas and it’s my family so if you love me you’ll come,
I was so upset and hurt because he knows the history with his family, I got so upset I said you know what I hate you and your family, it was a whole big argument all in text message and ended up spending the holiday a part and it sucked, it really hurt.
With
this one text message things appeared to be in a sense ruined and in a way not
able to be fixed, especially without seeing what her boyfriend was feeling. I
pulled out this particular data because it seems to be real and something many
of us in this day and age are faced with especially due to the technology we
have, and the somewhat too much of an easy access to our phones and text
messaging right at our finger tips any time of the day. I went on to ask my
subject how things could have been different if she had waited to speak to him
in person.
R do you feel texting
verses face to face conversation would have changed this situation? N definitely
if we would have just talked, it would have been different, we could have seen
each other’s hurt and body language, tone in his voice and the way he was
saying things.
This chunk of
conversation played a large part to my research information; it shows the
affects that texting has on people in relationships, and how the outcome of an
argument or disagreement can be altered due to not having face to face contact
with the other person. The loss of this face to face connection to see the
emotion and hear the other persons tone is what can play the negative side of
texting. My subject was able to give me a lot of feedback based on the
questions I was asking, which helped to prompt her thoughts about this topic.
Another aspect I explored as one of my interview questions was:
R Is it wrong to text the opposite sex when in a relationship?
N um it depends I have guy friends I’ll talk to once in a while, my boyfriend texts girls from work, occasional here and there is ok, but if you notice its happening a lot, its fishy stop and think no this isn't going to happen , and talk about it, the other person may take it the wrong way.
N um it depends I have guy friends I’ll talk to once in a while, my boyfriend texts girls from work, occasional here and there is ok, but if you notice its happening a lot, its fishy stop and think no this isn't going to happen , and talk about it, the other person may take it the wrong way.
I feel this is
an important factor to include in my research especially because it is
something that people are dealing with every day, having text messaging so
readily available can in some ways be tempting in regards to talking to the
opposite text while in a relationship. The negative aspect of this is the
person on the other side of the phone may be taking your text messages in a
completely different context then you intended. Another aspect of texting we discussed during the course of our interview was the the idea of texting your co-workers, I asked my subject:
R Do you feel your tone changes when texting friends verses co-workers?
N When your texting your nest friend, you can be you, say what you want and not have to worry, I think when you text a co-worker who is more of an acquaintance and you just have a social relationship with, you have to watch what you text and how you text it have to be careful not to offend or say something that can backfire.
Conclusion
My
research question focuses on the effects text messaging has on relationships, I
was able to explore through my data of questions, and how text messaging really
can have a negative strain on relationships. With the categories of questions I
asked throughout my interview I was able to break down the effects text
messaging can have on particular people, whether this involves an intimate
relationship, friendships, or even work related text messages. I was able to gain more knowledge on how text
messaging can truly affect relationships, especially in the sense of not being
able to see the other person’s gestures or facial expressions.
With
regards to my resources I was able to compare some of my findings to what they
found in their research. Technology is an ever growing aspect of our lives, and
will continue to grow as the years go on, we will have to adapt to something
new with regards to text messaging, but the effects on them are everlasting.
With the data I have gone through and categorized I have come to a conclusion
that as senders of text messages we need to be careful how we word things especially
to particular people in our lives. Positive messages can be turned into negative
ones when things are so often misconstrued which then leads to disruptions in
our relationships. People seem to be losing the sense of having face to face
conversation and that closeness of seeing and hearing someone’s emotions as we
speak to them, with the way technology is going this problem may never be
resolved.
Works Cited
Thurlow
& Brown (Revised). "Generation Txt? The Sociolinguistics of young
people’s text-messaging." Http://faculty.washington.edu/thurlow.
2003. November 15, 2012 <>.http://faculty.washington.edu/thurlow/research/papers/Thurlow&Brown%282003%29.htm
Simo,
Ortega, Jaime. “Experts agree text messages are bad for interaction and
health”. The Daily Journal. 2012. <http://thedailyjournalist.com/theacademic/experts-say-text-messages-are-bad-for-interaction-and-health/.